Boundaries keep you connected - I have been thinking about it in these terms more and more, too. To me, it’s co-creation that includes both the individual(s)/ self and the relationship.
I’m having a hard time though applying the metaphor of a container or a bridge for relationships that are unsafe, etc. Even in your last paragraph you talk about taller boundaries- that sounds more like a wall to me, and less like a bridge. Or are there more obstacles on the bridge?
I’m curious how you think about this; protection and connection. Can one even be truly connected if concerns about protection are in the mix?
Thank you for your comment. Yes, you’re absolutely right- in the last paragraph about fluidity I do mean that your boundaries can morph into a wall when it comes to your physical and emotional safety.
Perhaps I should have made that more explicit!
And as for your question, I think protection differs from case to case. If it’s about protecting your time, or your peace - I think you can consider remaining connected. If it’s about protection with regard to harm, then of course the two remain incompatible. Does that make more sense?
I’d love to know what you mean about co-creation - I haven’t heard anyone talk about it with regard to boundaries!
Boundaries keep you connected - I have been thinking about it in these terms more and more, too. To me, it’s co-creation that includes both the individual(s)/ self and the relationship.
I’m having a hard time though applying the metaphor of a container or a bridge for relationships that are unsafe, etc. Even in your last paragraph you talk about taller boundaries- that sounds more like a wall to me, and less like a bridge. Or are there more obstacles on the bridge?
I’m curious how you think about this; protection and connection. Can one even be truly connected if concerns about protection are in the mix?
Hi Hannah!
Thank you for your comment. Yes, you’re absolutely right- in the last paragraph about fluidity I do mean that your boundaries can morph into a wall when it comes to your physical and emotional safety.
Perhaps I should have made that more explicit!
And as for your question, I think protection differs from case to case. If it’s about protecting your time, or your peace - I think you can consider remaining connected. If it’s about protection with regard to harm, then of course the two remain incompatible. Does that make more sense?
I’d love to know what you mean about co-creation - I haven’t heard anyone talk about it with regard to boundaries!